Values and Direction.

I went to a seminar yesterday about company growth. One of the things they stressed throughout the talk, was the importance of discipline and focus, because without these you can not have a destination, a direction, a vehicle for moving, and a way to know whether you're moving.

For a company you must be focused on your core values, purpose and goal. Then with discipline, you can move towards that goal daily, and measure your progress too.

It's the same with a person, and your life.

I feel that around the beginning of my adult life 3 or 4 years ago, I spent so much energy breaking down the ideologies and beliefs that had been 'forced' upon me by family, friends, school and society in general that I was left with nothing. I had no solid beliefs or values, except that I believed in me and in my happiness, and that I valued life and love. I had a goal to fall in love, and I did it. I was there, and I am there. And that's pretty much where I've been ever since. 

With no other goal or purpose I've been 'floating' since then - Letting myself float in and out of mind sets and opinions. Letting myself lose sight of the love I'd attained, float away from it, and float back.

And I've felt that with 'floating', and without drive, you start to die. Your heart starts to die, your mind starts to die, and you stop 'being alive'. And by my own definition that life is to love, without life, how can I truly love? I need drive. I need a purpose and goal, and that's what I hope to attain here, now.

On a sidenote, after some more life experience I find that my definitions of love have changed too. Love is many things. It isn't only a feeling - it's action. To truly love, you need to do things for the growth and benefit of the person you love, even when you don't want to. Like for example driving them to a party even when you don't want to, just so they know that they can depend on you to be there for them. That's love. Or making the bed for them while they're at work, and even changing the fitted sheet when you normally wouldn't - just because you know they like it, and you don't want them to have to do it after a hard day's work. That's love too. And making the time to communicate with them, and find out how they're feeling and what's happening in their heart, mind and life. Just to let them know that they're important to you. These things are love.

And now that I've learned what it takes to sustain real love, and I'm trying each day to act on that knowledge, what else can I do to create drive in my life - to give me that passion I had when seeking and finding love. For once that passion is born, it won't be able to help but seep into other areas of my life, like my loving relationships.

What are my basic values? What value would I sever a relationship for it was gone against, and what value would I give up financial gain to protect? 

Well love, to begin with. I value love, and Giving love in all you do.

And experience. I value New experience that broadens horizons.

I value emotion, and the Fostering of emotional expression.

I value Aspiring to something great.

I value Being positive and always moving forward.

And what do I aspire to? What is my purpose? My purpose is to be happy and to share happiness.

And what's a measurable 15 year goal that I can focus on and aim towards?

After 50 minutes of no luck on this one, I think I'll need to sleep on it.